Sex and stuff: what if aspirational meant something different?

I’m not blogging much at the moment, because I’m mainly focused on a novel. And, for the last few weeks, I’ve been working on pulling together a synopsis for that novel, not because it’s finished, but because an external deadline requires one. So, in short, I started thinking about how I’d market it, and was quickly reminded that, in the real world sex might sell stuff, but in fiction, stuff sells sex.

I could write yet again about FSoG here: about helicopters, fast cars and penthouse apartments. But I don’t want to. Instead, I want to talk about Maestra, which, truth be told, is not really that different.

Rags to riches is, if you believe in that kind of thing, one of only seven possible basic plots, so it makes sense that people are still writing about it. Things haven’t changed that much since Dickens was writing about it – being white, male and ablebodied, or, if you can’t be those things, marrying them – is still the smoothest route to an easy life, and therefore the key component of any HEA.

I don’t know if Maestra ends with an HEA. I hated it so much I didn’t get past the sample chapters. But what I can tell you, just from those sample chapters, and from the reviews I’ve read, is that the sex and stuff link is alive and well. There’s a lot of champagne, many yachts and women who are desperate to lose their regional accents in favour of something posher. There’s some graphically-written sex. There are not, thankfully, any ‘inner goddesses’ and there is liberal usage of the word ‘cunt.’

Nobody has any feelings.

In a Guardian piece, called, promisingly, Time to be grown up about female desire, Maestra’s author, LS Hilton, makes some valid points, like this one:

‘From Colette to Pauline Réage to Catherine Millet, the French appear to have no difficulty accepting that a woman can write about sex without being reduced to it.’

The problem is, in the book itself, while she may not reduce women to just sex, she does, according to the Guardian’s review of the book, reduce them nonetheless:

It’s shocking because the world it portrays feels so depressingly regressive. Men have money, power, yachts and hedge funds. Women are disposable accessories, frantic for material gain; they might use their wiles to outwit the men, or manipulate them to their own advantage, but the essential balance of power remains unchanged.

Being grown up about desire – male or female, to me, means divorcing it entirely from status and material goods. It means separating it from body type – because not only beautiful people have sex – from race, and from ability level. In the real world, while relationships and sex might sometimes be driven by the quest for material gain, I really believe that desire is the one thing that isn’t. I don’t believe, or at least I hope – that nobody gets wet or hard over the thought of a hedge fund.

And erotica, by which I mean the type that people reading this are likely to be writing, rather than the mainstream titles mentioned above, has the opportunity to change this. Already many of us are writing characters who aren’t model-like in their looks, physique and/or age range. Not many of us feel the need to make our characters outrageously wealthy. And I think we can take it further. 

As you may know, I’m doing a workshop on writing disability in erotica at Eroticon this Saturday, and this question of aspiration is really the one I want to tackle. We spend a lot of time in the erotica/sex-blogging community reminding people that sex is a valid and worthwhile thing to write about – that sex and body positivity stand to benefit everyone. We’re doing as much, if not more, than most other genres to challenge gender and other societal norms, which makes me very proud and kind of emotional. And I want disability to benefit from that willingness to go against the status quo, too. 

LS Hilton says her book isn’t ‘precisely a feminist polemic’ and that’s fine, but if she thinks she’s being grown up about desire, I’d disagree. She says:

I merely attempted to write about a modern female character who is unapologetic about desire and who feels no shame or conflict about its fulfilment.

I’m sorry, but don’t we all feel shame and conflict sometimes? Isn’t that what gives desire the complexity that makes it such a joy to write about? Especially since she goes on to play down desire/sex as the book’s main theme: ‘Besides, it’s not a “sex book”, it’s a thriller.’ 

I want to write “sex books”. I want to write about the way sex makes people feel – both the good and the bad. And more than anything, I want to write fiction that represents the way we actually live, rather than the way the rags to riches plot tells us we should want to. If you feel the same, please come along on Saturday.


24 thoughts on “Sex and stuff: what if aspirational meant something different?

  1. Good luck, wish I could be there 😦
    I can’t read erotica books because I have no connection to the characters – I’m not young, I don’t know any fit handsome billionaires and honestly I wouldn’t know what to do if I ever found myself in that situation.To be perfectly honest I’m so fed up with the same storyline over and over with which I have no experience I just don’t bother.
    I’ve two mostly written novels, not so much Erotica, more stories that have sex in them, that I wrote as what I would want to read. My MC in both is pretty much me – older with MH problems trying to sort her life out – and I know for a fact that there are women out there like me who want to read stories about people like them because I’ve talked to them.

  2. I will definitely be at your session!

    And AMEN to this: I want to write fiction that represents the way we actually live, rather than the way the rags to riches plot tells us we should want to.

    Rebel xox

  3. So much YES! That’s why I set up Sexy Little Pages… to challenge the prevalency of white, cis and able heteronormative erotica. I want to read me in stories and be able to insert myself in to the narrative. And you’ve said this so much more eloquently that I ever could. See you at the weekend and I’ll definitely be at your session x

  4. I have been excited about your workshop since I signed up. This is why I love erotica – you can explore every facet of human experience and existence through it. It’s like painting with a whole new pallete where every colour exists.
    My characters always have challenges – whether that’s physical emotional or mental – and they quite often feel shame about their desires.
    I love erotica x x x can’t wait to meet you!

  5. one of the hardest things any writer faces is the writing without wondering what others will think and breaking from the traditional roles. Yes sex sells but bringing a new view is often met with a fear or repulsion for what is being offered. Like showing the reader that the would be traditional villain of the story is early a victim of the way the world treated him. That is hard for many to accept and I learned that the hard way

  6. In my published novels I have some rags to riches stories, as well as ‘beautiful’ people because my publisher tells me that this is what the readership requires, although I do like to sneak in a few ‘damaged’ characters to make the story more interesting.

    However, in my short stories, which I make available for free on my blog, I like to explore different dynamics. Some of my characters are people on the edge of society, or people who have characteristics that are normally not associated with erotic stories, because I find these much more interesting to write. For example, one of my more recent stories (The Wild Man of the Forest!The-Wild-Man-of-the-Forest-an-erotic-short-story/c1q8z/572783f60cf2e07fe751844a) is about a man disfigured by an accident and a woman blind since birth, because I find that the telling of their story is far more interesting than that of poor girl meets billionaire. As a society we sometimes concentrate too much on sex between the young, the beautiful and the healthy, and forget that the old, the infirm, the disabled, the poor, can have equally moving erotic experiences, and that some of these stories deserve to be told.

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